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any advice on how to stop slitting wrists i cant stop i just luv the pain and the blood going down my arm

Well the thing that stopped me was that my family found out, and if I did it again I knew that they would see and I would feel guilty again even though it was my way of getting frustration out.
I loved the feeling too, it was so good to be exerting the internal pain, but you can't keep it up or sooner or later you will do something that may cost you your future.
Perhaps Hana might be able to help you, she might know more specifically about certain mental stratagies. All I can say to you is that I empathise and encourage you to fight it if you can. The best way to do that is to tell someone that you trust. Sharing your load will help reduce the force of it weighing you down.
When you have no other way to avert your emotions there is no way to stop, so the first thing is to find someone to talk to: a school counciler or maybe you might have a deep relationship with your parents (I doubt it though if you are slitting at thirteen). The idea is to trust the councilor as someone who can and will help you; they aren't about getting gossip on you to spread to other kids or teachers and laugh. It is their job to help people and the only way you can fully utilise their help is to trust them with your burden.

see my mom fpound out i was slitting my wrists last year and shes been taking me to several counsil;ers but im afraid of people so i dontt talk which helps me in no way at all

misunderstood wrote:

see my mom fpound out i was slitting my wrists last year and shes been taking me to several counsil;ers but im afraid of people so i dontt talk which helps me in no way at all

I totally get you, but what you have to understand is that in order to beat the depression you have to face it. You have to face what is causing it and comes to terms with it or else it doesn't go away.
That is the true secret to defeating depression, howev doing it is another thing entirely...So don't feel weak in any way because you cant. Living with depression shows that you are among the strongest people in the world, as it proves you can deal with alot more than those who kill themselves.
Your mind will tell you that there is no point, but you know there is otherwise you wouldn't still be here. Its that hidden hope that mayb eyou will get the guy or whatever thats keeping you alive.

You shouldn't try and discredit that hope as nonsense or try and throw it away, you should follow it.
Also consider this: would you rather stay as you are in a misreable condition or talk to someone and try something different?
Its a matter of taking a look at what you have now and saying; what do you really have to lose?

wow u have awesome words that was so beautiful thanks i think u may have just saved me wow i cant get over how u understand thanks even if i have to read that every day o well thank you!!!!!

i stopped for the same reasons maul did. but one thing i have heard is squeezing ice cubes is supposed to be just as good, mistunderstood.

ok thanks hana o sry i never introduced myself im Jill

Haha i like that squeezing ice one Hana thats a good one; comical but a good way of gett ing frustration out, because honestly when your hand feels that cold you can barely concentrate on all else.
I've also heard of one with a rubber band that my friend did...instead of cutting she would use a rubber-band to whip her arm, I don't really get that one but meh...its just another idea that came to mind...

Besides killing myself with exercise a cold shower now and then helps me to shut off my mind lol